The standard of discipleship out of our response to God’s grace is the same for every single person that would come and follow Christ. Yet, it is interesting that it seems an even higher cost was at stake for those who would be selected by Jesus to be leaders in His movement. The twelve walked with Jesus and had a higher cost to pay to lead full-time in the ministry. This past Sunday we started our first ever “Leaders D-Group” which takes place after our evening Bible Talk leaders meeting. Jesus realized that only through a small group could he run his ministry, and took them through a ministry training program that was intense at times. In Luke 9, Jesus sends out the twelve telling them to not take money, bead, or an extra tunic. An extra tunic in the time of Jesus was like their modern-day jacket. The temperature in the desert would get so cold at night. He was essentially saying, you better find an open person to meet and share about the kingdom with or you might freeze to death that night or go hungry! Talk about accountability, but this was the cost and the training method of leadership by Jesus. The evening started off at my place with pizza and sharing. Interestingly, the entire ministry showed up at my apartment wanting to lead in God’s kingdom. It shows the great hearts, yet I realize that in time this number will thin out as I laid out the cost to lead in this ministry as the Bible lays out:
Mark 10:35-45
- The desire to be great is never down played in God’s kingdom, yet Jesus was asking his disciples are you willing to undergo the same sufferings I have undergone in order to lead. Can you drink the cup of death?
1. Self-sacrifice (1 John 3:16; Galatians 6:17; 2 Cor. 4:8-11)
- No cross = no leadership! Scars are the authenticating marks of a faithful disciple who leads. In John 20:20, it was the marks of Jesus that were proof of his leadership.
- Daily self-sacrifice is a must to lead in this ministry. You will bear the marks of sleepless nights, broken-heartedness, persecution, etc. Can you drink this cup?
2. Loneliness
- As you get to the summit, the cold gets colder, the wind stronger, and the burden of responsibilities heavier!
- Since the leader must always be ahead of his followers he lives with loneliness. Moses paid this price on the mountain being misunderstood by his followers. The prophets felt loneliness preaching unpopular messages at times. Everyone fled Paul in 2 Timothy 1:15. Jesus in the garden seeks the support of his disciples during one of the most overwhelming points in his ministry as he awaits the cross, and the disciples sleep on him. Jesus goes to his cross alone. 2 Cor. 1 says God is the God of all comfort, as a leader you will be a lone at times and must get your comfort from God.
3. Fatigue
- Someone once said, “The world is run by tired men.” The demands of leadership will wear you down. 2 Corinthians 4:16-18 admonishes us to not lose heart. Outwardly we are wasting away, yet it is with God that the Christian find renewal (Isaiah 40:29-31).
- Jesus felt fatigued (John 4:6; Mark 5:30). It makes you tired physically and also emotionally. Jesus rose early and went to bed late. For me personally, I wake up early to have my time with God and take care of “business” type stuff for the church, by 11:00am I am on campus until 11pm at night working the crowds. Even with this hard work, the ministry has just begun to start moving. Are you willing to pay the price of tiredness? Mediocracy is a result of never getting tired!
IV. Criticism
- No leader lives a day with out criticism. As a leader you put yourself out front as the main target. I constantly must remind myself that I am here to please God and not men (Galatians 1:10). Many have written horrible things about myself and my ministry on the Internet and I have to remember that I am following Christ the greatest leader of all time who was ultimately killed for what he believed in. Persecution and insult will come from those on the outside.
- Though, even harder is the criticism that comes towards the leader from those with-in the church. 1 Cor. 4:3-4 shows us that Paul didn’t care if he was judged by others, he was clear before God. Sometimes, people will constantly have the leader under a microscope just being critical. In humility we must bite our tongues acknowledge how they feel and move on. Brothers and sisters from the ICOC are perplexed with our motivating vision and need for another congregation and some have been critical. Are you willing to drink this cup and count this cost? God is who we please not men. The leader can’t be a conflict avoid-er or a people pleas-er.
V. Rejection
- “Christ came unto his own, and his own received him not.” There could come a time where a leader is rejected from his church for standing up for the truth. Is this a cost you could bear? I felt many feelings of rejection when I personally stood up for what God’s word said in Wichita, KS and my own family that originally taught me these convictions rejected me. It is a price one may have to pay one day leading.
VI. Pressure & Perplexity
A lot of times we think that the more mature we are in the Lord the easier it is to see God’s will and direction. Quite the opposite is true in fact, the more mature we are in the Lord the more God treats us as adults having to make our own decisions. There is no way to avoid pressure in leading, you are constantly faced with decisions you have to make. Are you in-decisive? 2 Corinthians 11:21-29 describes what Paul endured as a leader. Please read this passage and really pray over what you read. Sleepless nights, danger from false brothers, etc. plus the daily pressure felt from the churches.
VII. Relationships
- Those who are close to the leader must pay the price as well. Imagine the emotional pain Jesus’ family endured as he went to the cross. Whether you are married, have family, boyfriend/girlfriend, the cup spills over to these relationships. That is why it is so important that those who lead seek to date or marry someone who is willing to drink the cup of leadership as well. I myself have experienced failed relationships because of my role in God’s church when the other party wasn’t willing to drink the cup. Not only are you a target, but those close to you.
Hopefully you enjoyed my notes from this lesson I gave to our leaders d-group and will really consider, do I have what it takes to lead in God’s modern-day movement?